Comments on: Irish Independent article on infertility

By: Niki Mercury

Niki Mercury — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 17:44:32 +0000

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By: Belva Schuyleman

Belva Schuyleman — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 18:40:06 +0000

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By: Fiona

Fiona — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 22:39:32 +0000

Oh hon, it is just so, so unfair. And nobody understands that it is impossible to move on from the loss of a child, especially when they don’t even see it as that.

I used to feel jealous of people who had “only” had a miscarriage or even those who got pregnant on their first IVF. It is completely irrational and, like you said, based on how you feel about yourself, not the other person.

You have gone through so much, I hope things start to get a bit easier for you, one way or another.

By: The barreness

The barreness — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 21:20:17 +0000

five years and three months have passed with no pregnancy. not even a chemical one or phantom one!
i think i have actually gone mad. today i felt envy over a friends miscarriage.
im glad the winter means more layers, those bumps get covered up more so i dont feel so accosted on these dark days.
my sis in law is pregnant again and i have fallen out wit my inlaws cos i haven’t jumped for joy every time her pregnancy is discussed. so i decided to be honest. i told my mum in law i was happy for her but sad for me. that i felt down every day, cried every morning and evening and was no where near acceptance of my own infertility and that her success emphasised my failure…..and guess what?
she told me to stop feeling sorry for myself. my own mother has told me its time to move on, that nobody gets what they want in life…..cheers and fxxk you all!
ehm, exscuse me but she didnt

By: Fiona

Fiona — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 08:52:22 +0000

H and Lorraine – I’m so sorry about your losses. It is so unbelievably hard to have a due date come and go and still no pregnancy. I was so envious of people who miscarried and then got pregnant straight away and were able to say “If I hadn’t lost that baby, I wouldn’t have the one I’m carrying now”.

H – no way are you overreacting, it is the hardest thing I have ever had to go through and even though my story has a happy ending, I will never forget what it was like. The problem is other people acting like you should be over it and you should forget about it when you probably can’t think of anything else.

The very best of luck to both of you, I hope it happens for you as soon as possible.

By: Lorraine

Lorraine — Tue, 13 Oct 2009 08:15:43 +0000

I have just come across your post – i am so in the middle of what you are describing and the future does not look bright – I was searching for a little bit of sunlight in an otherwise miserable existance for me. 2 MC – the last 9 months ago and nothing since – nothing and no kind wowrds can help me – but thanks afor sharing it makes me feel good for you and now i am going to search for your book,

By: Fertility and Ovulation

Fertility and Ovulation — Fri, 09 Oct 2009 12:26:49 +0000

I am so so sorry too to hear your news. I have experienced the same thing and nothing prepares you for the heartbreak – even when your expecting it to be the case. I suffer from PCOS so i knew i was bound to lose my first one, but still prayed it wouldnt be the case. Even tho i thought i was prepared for my loss to come, nothing could of been further from the truth. Over a year on my heart is still breaking, the due date been and gone, the first birth date been and gone…. Your article has given me a lot of hope, thank you for sharing your feelings in such depth. I felt like i was overreacting in my mind, that these intense emotions about the whole process and treatment were just me blowing things out of proportion (including the fact that my hormones are the craziest ever – due to my illness) but now that you have detailed your thoughts and feelings you make me feel part of a community of brave woman, facing a hard road ahead, and your strength inspires me. Thank you for a fantastic post and i will be back to check on further updates.

By: Fiona

Fiona — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 11:14:51 +0000

Marie – I am so sorry to read about your miscarriage. It is a horrible experience for anyone but after everything you have been through, it must have been unbearable. I’m glad to hear you are ready to go again and hope your journey is quick and as pain-free as it can be. So glad that the book has helped – TTC can be a different language at the start. Tbh, I hate a lot of the terms but I suppose it does make a messy business easier to talk about!

By: Fiona

Fiona — Mon, 03 Aug 2009 10:09:52 +0000

Ah Denise, the support on blogs and message boards is amazing but in the end, YOU did it. But it is still so lovely to hear that I helped in a tiny way!

CNFC – thanks!

By: Marie

Marie — Sat, 01 Aug 2009 20:52:07 +0000

Hi Fiona,
The irish indo article was my first introduction to you and I immediately went out and bought your book. It was the best thing I could have done. I had just had my second miscarriage after a year and half trying for our miracle baby. All babies are miracles of course, but this was my own special miracle, because after undergoing chemotherapy five years ago for breast cancer, I was told the chances of conceiving a child were almost non existent. Of course, losing the baby devastated me, but I now feel ready to start trying again, and that is where your book has been invaluable. It is so easy to understand, so practical and so helpful. I would recommend it to anyone. I have written on my own blog about how confused I felt when I started to read fertility blogs and message boards. I felt that everyone was speaking a different language to me and so I was delighted to read your helpful list of abbreviations of the language of TTC. Armed with your list, I too can now speak TTC fluently!
http://diaryofamiracle.wordpress.com/2009/08/01/do-you-speak-ttc/