unfortunately, we dont have a good story to report..hope we will at some point in the future, but beginning to wonder!!
we only got to ec..& there was only 1 good egg…
and we got a call the following morning to say it had fertilised abnormally..so ivf didnt go ahead..that was this day last week…
it does seem now that my eggs are causing a problem too..so Im awaiting an AMH blood to let us know how bad the egg reserve actually is. this shud have been done 4 wks ago, but the clinic forgot to send it off..
if this shows a bad results its egg donor…& abroad as the cost of this here is 12,000…& it can be dont abroad for 4,500…( BIG DIFFERENCE THERE!!)
Anyhoo..Im looking into prices & waiting times & recommendations for clinics abroad at the mo, just to be ahead & be ready when get the AMH result back…
then we’ll know what direction were goin in.

Your poor DH has a lot to contend with too – it must have been awful to find out the DNA frag results were even worse after all that effort. Please, please god you will get two good eggs and two good embryos out of this cycle. The very best of luck for EC this week and hopefully you won’t have to worry about what next.

F xxx

no worries bout your reply, sure its great to get any reply at all…good to hear anothers thoughts on the situation..
Hows Harry? hope hes a good little boy, he must be getting big by now..& well settled in …

anyhoo..it was quite devastating to have to cancel the last cycle, ( I foolishly thought it would just work, as we have gotten preg so easily so many other times before just on our own) but it didnt work, & the follies just didnt respond. Def feel now it was down to the stress of what we were going through with Dad.

were actually having our next ivf cycle this week…due for ec either weds or thurs..

dh is still out of work & quite fed up with it all..dad is still in hospital & were now waiting on a full time bed in a local nursing home, he wont be coming home anytime soon…if ever..( hard to believe one fall could do so much damage to a perfectly healthy person) anyhoo..

the dna frag test is back, since last week..and after 5 mths of medication & v difficult low oestrogen diet, the level has gotten worse..!! imagine..dh & myself are quite pissed off with that…so the idea of even trying ourselves is out the window..
I have only 2 follies that have responded to the treatment this time…we cut out the down reg & only used stimulation this cycle, so were hopin (pinning all our hopes actually) on these 2 follies. I hope to God it works, as Ive never been so fed up with the whole thing. I feel the longer were at this
(3 /half years now) the less we are learning, we learnt that the main prob was dh’s sperm fragmentation, now we cant fix this…& now it seems my eggs could also be a problem ( I wouldnt wonder, with all this taking so long to fix, Im now 39 since feb) were also waiting on results of an amh blood, will tell more bout quantity of eggs left..Another problem that cant be fixed, unless we go for donor eggs & donor sperm which I feel, really isnt our baby..Just thats how I feel..like Id be a suurogate for 2 other peoples baby…

My head is a bit muddled with it all, Im not feeling very enthuastic about it all at the mo, very fed up…havnt even bothered to do any acupuncture this time, prob will get some after et…Just so down -wish we could get news about some aspect ….
anyhoo….dats all from me at the min, sorry for the down beat message…just sometimes its quite difficult to be upbeat when you really feel your getting nowhere…

anyhoo..talk again soon.

Gra

I can’t believe you’ve had so much bad news in the last while. I’m so sorry about the cycle being cancelled, that is so devastating and stressful. And to add to that the news about your dad and your DH’s job, I don’t know how you’re coping with it all.

You have probably got the DNA fragmentation results by now. If they are ok, then yes, it would definitely by worth trying on your own. If not, will you try IVF again? Will the clinic try a different protocol? What does your doctor say about it?

Hope you are ok and that some things have improved for you.

F xxx

tanks for your reply…I only had one good size follice after being on the max amount of stimulation…2 others were smaller, but werent good enough…so we had to cancel.
Im still waiting on af to arrive since the cancelled cycle, that will give us 1 month off to relax…& get a few more bloods done.Im gettin the fsh & a few others done..the LH E2 & AMH…& d doc will scan me during this month off to see how the follies are responding naturally…so she can judge better for the following month.
Its still a streeful time, & dh has lost his job too..!! & now theres talk of rehab not working on my dad & him being in full time care & not ever coming home, which does upset me & in turn causes stress…Im hopin after this month off the follies will kick back in & start growing properly!!!
I dont know if you remember I mentioned before my dh had tested positve for the sperm dna fragmentation test, which hes being medicated for & is on a low oestrogen diet to help reduce the frag level, well hes due to be re-tested in April,..
Its been on my mind, if that was our main problem (as all my tests up to now have been fine) & dh test comes back fine, would it be worth trying again ourselves…to see if things work out naturally, or would I be mad to even think of goin again without any med help??? maybe its just me head working overtime!!!..

anyhoo..tanks for listening..talk soon.