I picked this up recently for the first time in four years. I remembered it to be an enjoyable and exciting read, and if I ever had any cause to question it before, it didn’t stick in my memory.
Now, coming to it with a new pair of eyes, I put to you the thesis that it is part fiction, part comedy, heavy on rhetoric and completely unsuitable for those that don’t have “normal” conceptions, pregnancies and births.
Take this gem for starters:
“A positive test [after IVF] doesn’t necessarily mean a pregnancy.” (No further explanation.)
“A fetal heartbeat appears between 10-20 weeks of pregnancy.”
And my favourite:
“As remarkable as modern medical science is, when it comes to pregnancy diagnosis, it still sometimes takes a back seat to a woman’s intuition. Neither tests nor doctors are infallible. You know your own body – at least externally – better than your doctor does. “
Oh please can I go and spread this piece of wisdom around TTC boards????
Other gaffs: Missed miscarriages are very uncommon (in most cases the baby has died several days or weeks before the woman has any sign there is anything wrong), second trimester miscarriage is caused by something wrong with the mother, not the foetus (most commonly caused by chromosomal problems), an ectopic pregnancy will not give a positive on a HPT (HCG will always rise when implantation starts – if this happens outside the uterus it may stop rising once it reaches a certain level but it this will happen long after you have had a positive HPT) and poor nutrition after the first trimester will harm the baby (the baby takes what it needs from the mother’s body so it will generally only be the mother that suffers).
I only flicked through most of the book so there may be more. I did look up induction as I was induced on my first pregnancy and had to laugh when they warned that labour after induction may be “unpleasant”. I wonder if they’d consider having your legs sawn off without anaesthetic “unpleasant”. Or if they generally consider labour to be pleasant.
I’m not one to take the softly, softly approach. I like to know how things are going to be so I can prepare properly. This book takes the “don’t worry, sure everything will be just fine” approach and while it is conversational and informative in the areas in which the authors have their own expertise, there is a lot of padding and fluff that may not wash with anyone that has had a bad experience.