No ordinary girl

Did I say I was ordinary? Nope, still an angry aul cow. It’s those women, happily parading their pregnant bellies in front of me every time I visit my obs’ office. Who do they think they are??!?!?

Now, I KNOW that I don’t know what they’ve been through or what they’re going through. However, STATISTICALLY, they probably just had to have sex a few times and haven’t had much grief since. Yes, I should be happy for them that they have not had to suffer. And yet their carefree, jolly pregnancy banter does not make me happy. Hmmmm. Maybe us soldiers should wear an identifying wristband or something. Just so I don’t go shooting accusing looks at some poor veteran, just because she had the nerve to smile whilst rubbing her bump.

In other news obs office news, obs is talking about a 39 week induction. I asked what method was most likely to get baby out alive. Because of my history, I have a slightly higher chance of placental problems and stillbirth if I go past my due date so this is the safest method. I was hoping to avoid another induction after my last experience but this is a different team, a different hospital and word of mouth and Internet feedback is very positive. So I may never have the “Honey, I think it’s time” moment but that is last on my list of priorities at the moment. And I’m secretly excited that I may get to meet baby a week or two early!

What do you think? Did you have a history of infertility and/or miscarriage and choose a different option?

20 Replies to “No ordinary girl”

  1. Glad all is going well. Did your obs give you any idea of success rates with an early induction? I was induced at 40 weeks (39 +6) and it just didn’t go anywhere (3 lots of gel – wasn’t even possible to break the waters at that stage), I just don’t think the baby was ready to come. It ended in a section 36 hours later.
    Good luck with everything.

  2. History of miscarriages (3). Doctors induced me at 39 weeks. Inducement went slowly and it ended in a c-section. I was still glad I was able to try for a vaginal birth and the c-section was necessary because of a drop in the baby’s heart rate. Regardless of the outcome the safest thing for the baby and I (because of my history) was to be induced at 39 weeks. So, I would do the same again. My best to you.

  3. Thanks girls, it’s good to hear stories like these (although I’m sorry you had to go through it!) so I know exactly what I’m letting myself in for. I was induced at 42 weeks on my son and that took 20 hours and a ventouse delivery – even at 2 weeks over, he still wasn’t ready to come out. I have a lot of research to do but am glad to have options.

  4. Wow, I didn’t know you faced this problem. I don’t have the experience to back up my advice but have you thought about a planned c-section? I know it’s controversial for some women who really want a vaginal birth but if you already know you are at risk then maybe it could be a good option. Just my opinion of course.

  5. Well it looks like I’m not going to bump into you in the hospital then. I’m due a few days after you, 3 or 4 days I think, and going to the same place and half though I might see you around the nursery.

    I’m glad things are going so well and ‘normal’ on this pregnancy and hope you have a great birth experience. I was induced a few days early on my first and the birth itself was relatively straight forward. Did get a bit worrying at the end and my doctor used a ventouse to help deliver her as I just wanted my baby out alive and her heart rate was dropping, but she was and still is perfect.
    Even if she didn’t cry straight away after she was born just to put the fear across me, she was too busy looking around getting her bearings. I was terrified of losing her throughout the pregnancy too.

    Good luck, congratulations again, and may you enjoy every little kick you get between now and when ever you have her in May.
    ike we might

  6. Hi Feebee, I never got that “Honey, I think it’s time” moment either..I’ve had placental problems, and been induced at 40w, and twice at 38w. All three were okay though, because firstly, my body was ready to give birth (in fact on ds3 I was walking around at 4cm, but because of the placental problems, I didn’t seem to get what was needed to trigger labour).

    Personally, given my history, I’d have done anything to get my baby out (preferably earlier, because I didn’t trust my body to keep my baby safe, I always felt they’d be safer out in the world that had doctors etc to take care of them!). If your body is ripe for inducing at 39 weeks, then why not go for it..but if it’s not ready, with no cervical changes, then why not go for the planned section, as it’ll be all calm and easy, and nice, as opposed to a possible emergency 24 hours after trying for labour?

    And finally, when I finally got pg, and started to actually have a bump, over four years since we’d first started ttcing, I was one of those pg ladies who couldn’t help rub her bump and smile continually…. so you’d have probably been shooting someone like me dirty looks!

  7. Feebee, we never got that “honey it’s time” moment either and I’m not sad about it, all I cared about after 12 years of being told we would never hold a baby and then getting pregnant, was, that our baby was born alive and well. I would have delivered any way possible to have this, thus the reason I went for c-section. Contraversial I know..I’ve had the looks, read the comments, heard the comments behind my back and to my face but it was our choice I wasn’t prepared to take a chance. As you know James was delivered safely in Dec-I was lucky enough to have no complications and I was up and around the next morning, driving within 3 weeks, off paracetemol within the week etc…it’s just my story, but I can understand that you would do anything, pay anything etc etc to hold your baby…thinking of you as always Dee1 MM

  8. Thanks peep! I don’t fancy a section at all and doc says it’s not necessarily the safest thing for me. Think I will wait and see how I am at 39-40 weeks before making any decisions.

    denzo – we may still cross each other in the corridor whilst walking off those labour pains!

    Adie – I’m sure I’m also guilty of appearing way too happy these days. But I’m also really wary of talking about pregnancy at all, especially if there’s any chance the other person might be trying.

    Dee – so glad to hear everything is going so well for you.

  9. – I am so excited for y’all!! My hubsnad and I experienced infertility as well I can relate to your struggle! God is definitely good and I will be covering both of you and your baby in prayer over the next few months! Blessings!!

  10. Jen Bebb – SO happy for you guys!! If the little one is due in February, I might just be in town. I’ll be there for ahonter birth and it would be so great to be there for your baby too!

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